Most people have some kind of dysfunction i.e. obsessive, compulsive, impulsive, prone to all sorts of addiction, neuroses, depression, paranoia, anxiety and other kinds of disorders or dysfunctions. These may be caused by traumatic experiences in childhood or inherited in the genes. Sometimes these are exacerbated by family and community distorted values and ignorance and exposure to all sorts of stimuli that foster and deepen such condition. The dysfunction may be caused by a physical condition, sometimes an emotional or a mental defect or a combination of all three. The problem is when one is not aware of such a conflict in oneself or in another is that this could cause extreme danger to one’s family and the community at large, giving rise to damaged psyche, criminality, poverty and all sorts of unhealthy and humanly demeaning situations as well as life threatening diseases.
It is therefore vital for people to understand dysfunction within themselves and in others. But always we begin within ourselves. Sometimes it is seeing and experiencing the dysfunction in another person or in other people that trigger us to move towards finding the answers within our own selves. Sometimes religion unconsciously contributes to the dysfunctions by labels of “right” and “wrong” rather than the practice of “unconditional love and acceptance”. Dysfunctions are the main cause of a Co-Dependent relationship and that is why it is important for people to be educated about these conditions. Even in seemingly revered institutions like religious congregations and other similar religious or pseudo-religious or so-called spiritual movements are not exempted from having dysfunctional individuals within their group.
Many times people do not realize there exists a dysfunction when they have achieved a substantial degree of success especially financially and in their careers or even relationships. A lot of dysfunctional people are CEO’s or COO’s or successful businessmen , professionals or government functionaries or elected politicians. In most cases people are ignorant or clueless that the root causes of those who are prone to failure, sickness and accidents, and in unhealthy relationships is because of dysfunctions. The degree of the dysfunction can go from low, medium or high. In extreme cases the individual has to be institutionalized for treatment.
Sometimes it takes a very long time for us to realize that a dysfunction exists. Sometimes people die and never realize that they suffered from a dysfunction. It is, therefore, important for those of us who have attained a certain degree of understanding of dysfunctions to educate others that they may be enlightened and motivated to take the necessary step towards becoming healthy and whole and in doing so become a catalyst for growth for others within the family to follow suit and then to the community.
I discovered that the only way to deal with dysfunction is to first of all be Aware of it; then to Accept it and then to take Action to resolve the conflict and experience Wholeness and to Share and Educate others so that they too will go through the process of change and pass it on. However, this cannot be done without the necessary tools and guidance of mentors especially those with already a high degree of Spirituality.
One does not need to be a full-time psychologist or to earn a degree in psychology to be able to deal with dysfunction that is manageable. Though in general it would be good to consult initially a psychologist or someone with a high degree of spirituality to be guided in the right direction. A personal growth and awareness program is a good beginning. It is important though to be guided by a Mentor or Teacher who follows Universal and Divine Laws. In my case, I continue to subscribe to a Bible-based program to ensure that I am on the right direction but it is more spiritual rather than religious in its approach.
I have discovered two websites that have been invaluable in my journey of self-discovery and in understanding and dealing with my dysfunction in a healthy manner. These are the Higher Awareness of John and Patrice Robson and The Soul Journey of Andrew and Bonnie Schneider.
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